16 TAN UPDATE 11.18.2022 - short integration from genuine self

—  Rachel Richter  —

Fear, 

shame, 

overwhelm, 

anger, 

resentment, 

scarcity, 

insecurity, judgment, frustration, rage, etc. Please note: Emotions can be guideposts. Suppressing them does not help you whatsoever. It is ok to feel any emotion. All emotions are normal and valid. Feeling something, moving through it, and letting it go is a helpful, healthful process that I engage in personally and encourage you to do the same.

And yet, engaging in this manner fuels disconnection from yourself and others and is fundamentally different from the healthy process above.So what do you do when you see yourself engaging from from a place of disconnection with other people or with yourself?How do you get back to engaging as your genuine self? 

🍃 I invite you to get grounded and... (again, grounded = being present in your body, feeling your feet on the ground, your butt in the seat, etc.)

And ask yourself this one question:

"How young do I feel right now?"

Why do I invite you to ask this one question?

Reality never has a filter,

 from a time before you moved out on your own.

Want to know why this may be happening?

In certain situations in your life, part of you never got the memo that you are now an adult. That you can handle challenging situations in a different way with more impact and agency than you had the opportunity to when you were young. In these moments of breathing and asking ourselves how young we feel right now, we are simply giving ourselves that memo.

Now you're able to give yourself this memo anytime find yourself engaging from a disconnected place. Simply place your hand over your heart and speak out loud to that young part of yourself,

"I'm here now.You matter.You're safe.You're the little one. I'm the big one.You can go play. I've got this."

🧐 Found value from reading this? Who in your circle could benefit from having the opportunity to read this too?Be a catalyst for better connection — share this with intention. After all, this is exactly why I am sharing it with you, ! ✨May you have a wonderful weekend,Rachel